Offlate Ive been thinking about how wishes for
the newly wedded need to undergo a change. Gone are the days of “Love laughter
and happily ever after”, “Wishing you happiness always”, “Congratulations on
your wedding”, etc etc.
Those wishes were meant for couples who stood
by each other through thick and thin, through sickness and health, through good
times and bad, through children and grandchildren and for marriages that
celebrated their 50th year with much pomp and show.
These were
couples who had their differences, sometimes didn’t meet eye-to-eye on all
issues, who argued and maybe shut doors with a bang at times! But these were
also couples who stuck together (willingly or otherwise) for the sake of their children
and for peace in the family and because they didn’t want to be seen as
failures.
These days it’s about “MY space”, “MY
freedom”, “MY identity”, “ME”, “ME”, “ME”! There is nothing wrong with that.
Having and knowing your selfworth is very important, but this feeling of selfworth
is also true for the partner.
Today marriages
are lavish affairs, each wedding outdoing the other in terms of location, theme,
clothes, invitations, menu, shor sharaba, naach gana! However how many of us
from my generation and the one following us can boast of a 15th
wedding anniversary .. and hopefully a 25th and thereafter a 50th!!!
I believe that wishes now need to undego a
change. We must now wish the newly wedded “A happy marriage where you respect
each other”, “A blissful life where you live, share, care with each other and
love eachother”, and yes “A graceful book (Note – not chapter) where you write
memoires of love, respect and care”.
Our wedding vows need more words like
Respect, Monogamy, Care, Cherish, RESPONSIBLE Freedom and LOVE.
And after all of this, if marriages still don’t
work out.... You stop, introspect, take a deep breath and start all over again
with the blessings of your loved ones. AMEN
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